(Approximately 4 minutes, 12:50 - 16:50)

• Two types of attention:
  • Reactive attention system- help our kids limit this
  • Focused attention system- homework stretches these "muscles." Help kids build capacity increase their focused attention time.
• K-12 school years are the opportune time to learn to focus
• Help kids put boundaries in place. We need decide to put boundaries in place, not let the technology set the boundaries for us.
• Apple Screen Time a Huge Win for Everyone, Including Parents!

(Approximately 4 minutes, 16:50 - 21:00)

• No tech at the dinner table or in the car: Be where your feet are.
• FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)
• When are kids addicted? When kids become deceptive about their use of technology. When they don't know what to do with their free time or are jittery. If they pull back from face to face relationships. If they aren't meeting their obligations at home and school.
• When you feel that technology has taken over, reach out for support. Contact a counselor (see Student Well Being Resources)
• Apple Screen Time a Huge Win for Everyone, Including Parents!

(Approximately 9.5 minutes, 21:00 - 32:20)

• Dealing with different rules due to divorce/separate homes: need to have courageous conversations. Start with vision for family to get on same page. Support rules of parents rather than confuse kids by disagreement. - Contact a counselor (see Student Well Being Resources)
• Common Sense Media's Parental Concerns section
• How do I set a good example in the amount of time/timing of usage I spend with digital devices in the home? Being present.
• It's OK to have different rules for parents than kids, such as moving ratings.
• Be where your feet are.
• Just three taps to see your app use in past 24 hours or past week.
• Cutting back on digital distractions
• Your phone is a pocket slot machine
• Apple Screen Time a Huge Win for Everyone, Including Parents!
• Lack of depth and authenticity in online relationships such as online gaming. Help your kids be known and belong.

(Approximately 7.5 minutes, 32:20 - 39:40)

• Be transparent.
• If you want to use technology, this is how it's going to be. You are the parent and are a steward of their belongings.
• Open DNS home Internet WiFi filter
• Cellular, instead of using Curbi as mentioned in video:
  • Apple Screen Time a Huge Win for Everyone, Including Parents!
  • Apple Restrictions iPhone or iPad
  • Google/Droid Family Link

(Approximately 5 minutes, 39:40 - 46:40)

• Best age for a kid to get a smartphone- be clear about the purpose first. Privilege is an outcome of responsibility.
• 34% of Minnetonka parents don't allow social media until high school

(Approximately 4 minutes, 48:26 - 52:40)

• How to change things now- implement things gradually, step back and start with technology vision for family

(Approximately 15 minutes, 4:50 - 20:38)

• Lead with curiosity. Powerful Conversations with Kids: Start with "What if.." vs. "Have you..?"
• Natural consequences. If it becomes a power struggle, step back.
• Kids are going to make mistakes. Use them as teachable moments with unconditional love. Be careful to separate judgment and shame.
• Trust and check, provide oversight. How Much Should Parents Snoop?
• Our job is to parent, not be their best friend. Say no and create solid boundaries. As you see mastery, give more responsibility.
• Apple Screen Time a Huge Win for Everyone, Including Parents!
• See Part I: Age Recommendations

(Approximately 6.5 minutes, 20:38 - 27:19)

• How Long is Stuff Really Out There? My Students' 1995 Digital Footprint
• Creating a positive digital presence/footprint

(Approximately 9 minutes, 27:19 - 36:12)

• Providing some oversight- what are your kids posting, seeing?
• Don't overreact and judge.
• Avoid anonymous tools and posts, don't give those sites an audience.
• How do you represent yourself and interact with others online?
• Parent modeling- how are you interacting with others online?
• Use technology with empathy, compassion, and integrity. Remember the golden rule.

(Approximately 11 minutes, 36:12 - 47:47)

• Snapchat
• Hidden apps to hide photos
• Only digitize things that Grandma would approve--nothing digital is private.
• Privacy vs. secrecy
• Sexting
• Seeking validation
• See Part I: Filtering
• Side effects of pornography- impact on relationships, objectifies and places physical connection above emotional
• Secretive taboo topic gives it enormous power when hidden--kids are learning about sex from the Internet. Take shame out of the equation. Powerful Conversations with Kids: Start with "What if.." vs. "Have you..?"

(Approximately 6 minutes, 48:14 - 54:00)

• CommonSenseMedia.org Great parent newsletter and phone app
• Mathew Meyers, Traverse Counseling and Relationships That Heal Blog
• Dave Eisenmann, The Next Tech Thing Blog and Top 10 Tips for Raising Tech Healthy Kids
• It's OK to Unplug. Family Fun Day- Making Quality Time for Relationships